What is a toxic relationship?

A toxic relationship is characterized by behaviors on the part of the toxic partner that are emotionally, and sometimes physically, damaging to their partner. A toxic relationship is characterized by insecurity, self-centeredness, dominance, and control. A toxic relationship lowers self-esteem and drains energy.

My Experience

I have recently been dumped by my boyfriend of three months. At first, I was very upset. That is until I started thinking about how bad he was for me. I was constantly upset with him. He always made me cry. I know some of the time, he didn’t mean to, but others times, he just didn’t try It felt like I was putting in 110% and he was barely trying. However, the reason we broke up is a lot deeper than that, but I won’t bore you with the details. A few examples of him fucking me over and making me cry include: only coming to see me twice while I was in the psychiatric hospital, leaving me in the middle of a slope at a ski resort when we were snowboarding, ditching me for his friends, telling me my family is controlling, never following through with plans, taking a break because “he was too busy” (I despise when couples take breaks, unless its absolutely necessary), lying to my mom and I, talking shit about my mom, being disrespectful to my mom while I was in the psychiatric hospital, just to name a few. All of these incidents caused emotional damage, and some of it even caused me to relapse into self-harming. Overall, it just wasn’t a healthy relationship, but I refused to see that. When he broke up with me, that was probably a blessing. I loved him, but he made me sad/angry more often than he made me happy. That’s not to say that he didn’t make me happy at different points, because he did. However, there was more bad than good.

Solution

Once you realize what kind of person they are, get out of that shit as soon as possible. Toxic relationships will only drag you down. I know at the time, it may seem like you need them, but in all reality, you don’t. Do what’s best for you.